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Heading to Alabama to pick up Karen and the kids.

Don’t have time for full reports, but they will come later this week(if my mother in law’s computer is working).

Life is good.  I’ve had one soda a week for 3 weeks and no Mt. Dew in 2 weeks.  Gotta switch Gatorade and sweet tea for water since it was hindering my weight loss.  Thanks for your prayers.  Can’t wait to see my family.  Drake has officially entered level 4 of the terrible 2’s.  Peace to all.

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It has now been more than half of my life since I was called into the ministry.  At the time, I had no idea where it would take me.  More than a third of my life has now been spent in full-time ministry.  This past week of camp (my 29th since accepting the call) was a clear reminder that I am doing what God created me for.  I feel like the ability to make people laugh is the greatest gift and pleasure which God has given me.  Laughter melts even the hardest heart of stone.  Laughter brings relief to the afflicted and comfort to the oppressed.  Laughter does not bring salvation, but it opens the doors of the hearts of people who would not do so otherwise.  I sit here alone in my house as my family is hours away visiting grandparents.  I often wonder about how much longer I can hold my current career as youth pastor and be the husband and father I want to be.  It grows harder and harder to be away from my wife and children with each passing year.  I pray daily and put my trust in the Lord that the price He has called me to pay in ministry will not come at too much of a cost to my family.  I feel that I have sacrificed a lot over the years, in the name of Christ, that He never called me to.  It was immaturity and eagerness on my part, but it is easy to call any church thing, however unnessecary, an essential part of full-time ministry.  I have seen too many friends pay a high price in ministry by giving their time and energy to more than God commanded or called.  All of this is different with each couple and family.  We are not machines built on an assembly line built to endure and tolerate the same things.  We must always be aware of the price we are asking our families’ to pay.  There is such a fine line as to what is too high and how much is too much.  Add to it the fact that we rarely talk around our kitchen tables and in our bedrooms about these matters and the problem only deepens and remains unresolved.  How do you balance the sense that, while at a youth camp, you are doing and being everything God has intended while you are away from your family?  How do you reconcile that?  How do you repay the days and weeks away?  I know that in the 4 weeks I am apart from my family my son’s vocabulary will grow, my daughter’s will learn new things, and my wife will have bared the burden without me.  How do I insure to my God, my wife, my children, and myself that the church, the ministry, and camp have not become a mistress in any way, shape, or form?  I am replaceable as camp counselor, youth pastor, and camp jester, but not as a husband and father.  Maybe it’s coming to that realization that is the key.  Knowing that where my heart is there my treasure will be also.  I’m not one of those people who dreds youth camp or whatever.  Give me a mic and a crowd.  Give me a camp game.  Give me the chance to come up with something off the top of my head.  That’s just how I’m wired.  I feed off it.  I feel so alive in Christ when given these opportunities.  It’s also in those private conversations.  Those one on one times with kids who are hurting and looking for answers.  No mic needed there, but that’s still who I’m created to be.  I have never loved doing what I do and being who I am more than right this minute.  I have never loved my wife, children, and family more than I do right now.  No lights, no crowd, no music.  Just one Father doting on another so he doesn’t feel alone, but alive.  It’s a good life.

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Sorry for the posting delay.  Monday was quite a strange day for me.  My description of the day is only to tell you how some events affected me and hopefully, what happened to me won’t happen to anyone else.  I won’t be using names of the people involved because my goal isn’t to bring attention to the people and places, but to their affect on me.  I don’t know any of the people involved, but pray for them daily.  So, here is the timeline.

1.  Found out before lunch on Monday(through his blog) that a pastor I follow(twitter, blog, etc.) had resigned his church because of an affair with someone he works with.

2.  This weighed heavily on me throughout the day as my wife, Drake, and I ran errands in preparation of the summer.

3.  Monday night, my goal was to get in bed by 8 pm as I was wore slap out.  However, at 8, I got on the internet to search for more information on the pastor’s situation.

4.  This search led me to a blog whose soul purpose is to rebuke and ridicule certain churches in the south(BIG churches) and their pastors.  I love and respect all these churches.  The blog made me think,”who has time to critique every word these pastor’s preach, blog, facebook, and twitter?”  The blog was mean spirited without being venomous(if that makes any sense), and to my knowledge, the author was not anonymous.  By this time, it was 8:30 pm.

5.  This search led to more blogs and more criticisms of these leaders I respect.  It was disheartening.  Not that I lost trust in these people, but that people took the time to tear them down.  It was like a wild goose chase.

6.  Found a blog from a young lady which she began as therapy for abuse she received from a pastor.  Through her blog, she wrote a letter addressed to him which told the story of the inappropriate comments he had made.  When the story about the pastor mentioned in #1 broke, she came out and said he had been the one who had made the comments which were sexual in nature.  It was great how her blog showed her progression and how the Lord had helped her.  I know personally 3 pastors who have committed(or been accused of) sexual crimes.  A third committed adultery and left his wife and kids.  This came after multiple instances of abuse on his part at previous ministry stops.  Some were known and some were not.  In every single one of these cases, there were “red flags” that people saw, but didn’t report.  Even in the instances where it was reported or confronted, little was done on the part of the individual to address the behavior and more victims were claimed.  I personally helped a friend confront one of these pastors, and while he confessed some misdeeds to his family, his behavior did not change and it ruined his ministry and tore his family apart.  At this point, it was 9:45 and I wondered why we are quick to note “red flags” after it’s too late, but not when it would actually help anyone.  God help us all.

7.  All of this led me to a 9 minute video in a sermon of a pastor bashing one of the above churches for it’s ministry and worship practices.  While trying to find out more about this pastor, I found out he had recently been in the news for being tasered and beaten at a border checkpoint(which wasn’t anywhere near a border).  I watched a few of the news reports and checked his church website.

At this point, it is 10:17 pm.  My wife had asked when I was coming to bed, and my intention was to have already been in there.  I realized I had just wasted 2 hours of my life.  While I gained lots of information, I don’t feel it was helpful or uplifting to me.  It was depressing information of churches and pastor’s tearing others down and lives and ministry’s destroyed.  While reading about all of this, I neglected my marriage.  Rather ironic, that while reading up on these subjects in the hopes of protecting my marriage I actually hurt it.  I made a commitment to my wife that I would go to bed whenever she did from now on.  I will stop reading, stop net surfing, turn the tv off, and do whatever it takes so she doesn’t fall asleep alone anymore.  I’m also going to put my phone on vibrate when I get home and only return/reply to calls and txts that need immediate attention.  I must do whatever necessary to mentally and emotionally engage with my family rather than being so distracted all the time.  My time with them is precious especailly considering that we will be apart for the next few weeks while I attend youth camps and Karen and the kids visit family.  We must all reexamine our lives.  We must all recognize and address what distracts us from those who should be most important to us.  God bless you all.  God be with all those hurt in these various situations.  God help his church reflect and build his kingdom.

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How you enjoy these as much as I did.

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Here’s a blast from the past.  No stunt double was used.  I hear that CU News is back on the air.

1.  I wonder how a pro-life supporter can kill someone(in a church)in cold blood because that person is pro-choice.

2.  I wonder how many pastors(youth pastors especially) we will see get “let go”, “fired”, “inner circle word for getting fired(copyright, Heath Mullikin 2008)” before the Wesleyan denomination steps in and adds some real job protections to the Discipline.  How about when the youth pastor signs a yearly housing lease(because he’s asked to by the board) and shortly after is let go with a pricey out clause?  In the corporate world, that’s a lawsuit waiting to happen.  On the flip side, if the pastor jets in an untimely and unclassey way then he should be penalized like a college basketball coach.  At some point, a DS should step in and say, “nope, you ain’t gonna do that to these good people.  You’re taking a year off.”

3.  I wonder if the John Wesley movie is going to be as bad as I think it is.  I wonder if the 5′4″ Wesley appreciates being portrayed by a guy big enough to be an NFL TE(that’s Tight End for all you non-fantasy football players).  I wonder if, as Wesleyans, we are obligated to promote a substandard product which may do more harm than good.  Of course, the film may be great and I will see it regardless.  I thought “Amazing Grace” was great.  I just don’t see Mr. Calvin getting this kind of theatrical treatment.  When I see the movie(can’t find the release date on www.comingsoon.net which isn’t a good sign) I will give it a fair review and probably take a bunch of people to see it with me.  We may even rent out the whole theater.  I’m sure Jam can get us a deal at Cinemark in Asheboro.

4.  I wonder if TLC is “The Learning Channel” then what are they teaching us with season 5 of Jon and Kate(episode 2 is on as I type).  Why would the couple or the network sign on for 40 episodes in the midst of the beginnings of the current scandal(oh wait, I just dropped a dollar, now where was I)?  This season is going to be like Nascar-everyone is watching for the wrecks.

5.  I wonder how I game I am so terrible at(golf) brings me so much joy?  I will break 100 before year’s end.  Just gotta get my arm fixed first.  Is there such a thing as golfer’s elbow/forearm or that just called old man syndrome?

6.  I wonder why I made my wife wait while I finished typing this.  I’m an idiot.

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My friend and fellow SWU alumnus, Christian Chapman, spoke at our church last night.  Wow.  It was amazing.  He is a great story teller and his passion came through in every detail.  He is currently speaking with Kingdom Building Ministries, recently finished his first book, is racing a Legends car, and will be competing in the Baja 1000 in November.  I will be recommending him for our camp very quickly.

1.  Posting on Jon and Kate recently got me the most views for a single day.  Thanks for reading!  The season premiere got huge ratings(duh).  Lots of people have told me they won’t be watching anymore.  Unfortunately, we will be getting weekly updates every time we got through a checkout line.

2.  Anybody seen the new Terminator movie?  I wonder what James Cameron thought of it.  I’m falling behind on my summer movie watching.

3.  After months of trying to get the church sound system to sound better, a few of us hooked up the subwoofer and youth room speakers to the main system.  Hopefully, it will provide a fuller sound.  Currently, we have mounted Bose speakers as the main ones and they’re just not getting the job done.  The sound coming from the monitors is much clearer than the main speakers.  Hopefully, the switch will remedy this.

4.  Am I the only one shocked by the Orlando-Cleveland series?   Lebron James has had zero help in this series and he appears to be wearing down physically.  His teammates have played well all season.  They better play great in game 5 or changes could be made. Kobe is just toying with Denver.  He knows he needs a title without Shaq to cement his legacy and Phil Jackson is desperate to pass Red Aurebach with 10 titles.

5.  My golf game is depressing.  Do you know anyone else who hits their 4, 5, 6, and 7 irons the same distance?  I can keep my drives in the fairway with my driving iron(not very far down the fairway), but it’s all downhill from there.  My putting is pretty decent.  It’s shots 2-6(7,8,9) that kill me.  There was a guy we played with the other night in church league(yes, we are in a church golf league) who had a really nice bag and sweet clubs.  He had the whole attire thing going on too.  He tees off on the first hole and nails about a 285 yard drive.  I’m thinking,”This guy is not a C or D player.”  Then he goes for his second shot, and his third shot, and his fourth shot, and his fifth shot, and his sixth shot, and his seventh shot.  We tied on the hole.

6.  Tony Morgan had this great post the other day on the new traditional church.

7.  Gotta either find my birth certificate or my old passport in order to get a new one for the SLD Road Trip.

8.  Question for all you youth pastors out there:  do you still have your regular weekly meeting during the summer?  With camps and holidays, there are only a few Wednesdays left open to even meet for us.  We will using those nights to do some cosmetic work in our youth room.  What about you?  How do you adjust to the summer schedule?

Yes, it’s raining….again.  We whine when it doesn’t and we whine when it does.  Via Con Dios!

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Being the parents of multiples, Karen and I have watched Jon and Kate plus 8 over the years. It was heartbreaking for us Monday night to watch how fractured their relationship had become. It was almost uncomfortable. One TV critic said that one almost felt like you were watching something you weren’t supposed to. I don’t know what has happened to their marriage. I don’t know if anything the tabloids said were true. I know that marriages aren’t built or torn down overnight. What we saw Monday was not the result of “one mistake”, but the culmination of a couple that had drifted apart over the course of many months(many which weren’t televised). I wonder what percentage of reality tv marriages have ended in divorce. I know that many relationships started on tv have failed(see Bret Micheals now on season 3 of Rock of Love: Whatever). Hulk Hogan and his wife are going through a nasty divorce. Nick and Jessica split up after a few seasons of their show. I’ve been wondering if the tabloids just through out junk headlines that fulfill themselves or if they really do have credible sources for some of this stuff. The National Enquirer broke the story on John Edwards’ affair, but they also said I would become rich if I stared at the big red dot long enough. Do happy couples see the headlines of their impending split week after week and it leads them down a dark path or were the headlines true to begin with? My hope and prayer is that Jon and Kate will work things out and that all of us watching will cherish our marriages even more. What was clear Monday night is that these 2 people do not seem to like each other very much any more. That did not happen overnight. I am facing a summer where I will be away from home for 4 weeks. I have to start preparing my family for that today. I have to invest time, energy, and passion into my marriage so that my wife’s(or my) tank isn’t on empty when I leave. You would think that after almost 10 years of marriage I would know how to do that effectively, but I don’t. I just know that it takes a lot of days and nights of not acknowledging your spouse before you can sit beside them on a couch on national TV and act like they’re not even there. So, are we all just gonna pile on Jon and Kate or are we gonna work everyday on our own marriages? Divorce is tragic whether it’s on national television or not.

Since getting married and having kids I have been much better about taking a day off in every week.  Like so many people(pastors too!) I used to be really bad about taking a Sabbath.  Now, I look forward to Thursdays and the hilarity that ensues.  Here you go:

1.  This story makes me leary of buying a GPS system despite my inability to navigate the Triad.

2.  Karen and I have decided to run a half marathon in the fall instead of the one in June.  Basically, I’ve got to lose some weight before I can really run like I need to.  Running was killing my knees and back.  So, Karen found a nice Eliptical machine on Craigslist and we are hitting it hard.  Now, if I would only remember to stretch first.  So, I’m aiming for a target weight and hitting the road again after that.

3.  The NBA Playoffs have been a joy to watch.  I’m not sure what they did to increase the flow of the game and the offense, but I like it.  Orlando was amazing in Game 7 at Boston.  KG truly is the heart of their defense and without him they couldn’t get the stops they needed.  I think Cleveland wins the Finals this year and models their franchise after the Bulls:  surround Lebron with role players who do what they’re asked to do.

4.  I am still trying to figure out this network marketing thing.  It’s frustrating because I know there are a gazillion ways to make money online.  It’s putting my time and energy in the right place and learning the right things that are a struggle.  I feel like I get distracted and lose time getting to my end result.  Thankfully, I’ve learned alot of neat things, but still need to put many of them into practice.

5.  I have no idea what’s happening on American Idol.

6.  In case you didn’t hear, all World Series games will begin at 7:57 pm this year.  Finally, Bud Selig makes a sane decision and I won’t have to celebrate quietly when one of my teams wins it all.  Both Red Sox victories were enjoyed alone after midnight and I had to be quiet.  Red Sox and Phillies have won 3 of the last 5.  I hope to see that trend continue.

7.  Found the site, keepvid.com, last week.  It allows you to download youtube and other videos to your computer.  It’s already helped with getting videos for worship as I can import the downloaded vids right into propresenter.  Any other programs I need to be checking out?

8.  I’m off to lunch with my friend, Jared Bell.  I’m excited about what God is doing in his life and ministry.  We are gonna solve the world’s political problems and plan the camp games.

Here’s a link to a video about a story I heard about this weekend.  Watch it here.  Was this an innocent mistake?  What would the cost be to redo all the yearbooks?  Who should pay for that?  How would the school make sure all the yearbooks were collected?  Am I the only one who was waiting for the mother and daughter to accept some blame?  The moral of the story is ALWAYS wear underwear and make sure they are clean.

Here’s a more uplifting video about a church putting it’s money where it’s mission is.

Lastly, are there certain songs that your church responds to more than others? Songs that really get the congregation fired up? I’m not sure if it’s the rhythm or the familiarity with the song. I do know that some songs are easier to clap to than others. Is it good or bad when we insert those songs into the worship set because we know the response it will get? Just wanting your thoughts. Have a great Monday.